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Anger Types.

1. Behavioral Anger


People who experience behavioral anger usually confront whatever is making them angry. And it's usually other people. It doesn’t matter whether the other person is genuinely doing something wrong or; the angry person is just in a bad mood and interpreting everything in the most negative way imaginable.

 

And that is a key understanding when dealing with anger; it is not the other person’s behavior which is making you angry; it is your interpretation of and, subsequent reaction to their behavior which is the cause of the anger.

 

2. Chronic Anger

These people who experience chronic anger are the people who hate the world, they hate everyone in the world, they hate themselves, and they usually can't tell you why.

Those with chronic anger issues are the type of people whom you will just assume are going to be angry. Perhaps unfairly, you don’t wait for them to get angry; you just start out prepared for an explosion.

And, they'll fly off into temper tantrums at the drop of the hat and they're just angry all the time. One of the better things about those with chronic anger is that their anger will often disappear as quickly as it arrived.

Quite often, chronic anger is a result of low self-esteem and as such it really is the other person’s issue and; not necessarily a problem with the world around them.

 

3. Constructive Anger

Often the result of anger management techniques, these people channel their anger in a constructive manner to get desirable results.

It must be remembered that anger isn’t always a bad thing. Like all emotions, it exists for a positive reason. It’s just that as we humans have evolved, our use of anger has not evolved with us.

When channeled correctly and expressed in an appropriate manner, anger can help people to see the importance of an issue and; to come to the realization that corrective action needs to be taken.

 

4. Deliberate Anger

This kind of anger is sometimes referred to as ‘motivational anger’. It is often used by mangers, both in the workplace and more commonly, in sports. The idea is that when your ‘team’ sees how angry you are; they will be motivated to improve their performance.

It's often used as a ploy to control subordinates and it doesn't usually last long. The major issue with ruling by fear is that you have to keep pulling this stunt. Eventually, your subordinates begin to see through it and fail to respond; unless you escalate matters.

 

5. Judgemental Anger

People who experience judgmental anger often have low self-esteem and they express their anger by putting other people down in public in an effort to try to make themselves look better.

I remember years ago I had a friend like this. He would never raise his voice in anger but he was always putting people down to make himself look better by comparison. Of course, making others feel small so that you can feel big always backfires.

 

6. Overwhelming Anger

These people are so wrapped up in their anger that they can't take it anymore. They tend to have real difficulty in express their anger and concerns and instead, they bottle it all up. Eventually, they can’t hold it in any longer and it has to come out.

They often resort to destruction or even physical violence, causing harm to themselves or someone else.

While those with overwhelming anger can be very frightening, it is important to note that they rarely mean to cause anybody else harm.

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7. Paranoid Anger

This type of anger is totally without cause.Generally due to low self-esteem, the person imagines that someone is against him and resorts to anger and violence to lash back at their imagined attacker.

This is one of those areas of life where assumptions can cause major problems. The angry person has interpreted the words or action of somebody else as an attack and a slight on them.

Rather than raise the issue with the ‘offending’ party to clarify the matter; they apply their own interpretation by assuming that any offence, real or perceived, was intentional.

 

8. Passive Anger

These people typically use sarcasm or mockery as a way to express their anger & stay away from confrontations and conflict.

This type of anger occurs when the angry person has a problem with somebody else but refuses to just come out and say it. Instead, they adopt a hostile attitude to that person through a range of measures.

Somebody who adopts passive anger often feels a little victory from the fact that the other person doesn’t even know why they are angry with them.

On the other side of the coin, the person with passive anger often becomes angrier with themselves for not being able to deal with the issue in a more open and appropriate manner.

 

9. Retaliatory Anger

Probably the most common type of anger, this occurs as a direct response to someone else lashing out at you or doing something that makes you angry.

Rather than try to resolve the issue amicably, you deem it necessary to even the score. You are simply unprepared to allow somebody else to have the upper hand. Often, your retaliation won’t be at the same level as the ‘wrong’ which you were on the again so, you up the ante to ensure you gain the upper hand.

At the most extreme level, retaliatory anger has been the cause of many conflicts around the world.

 

10. Self-Inflicted Anger

People use this type of anger to punish themselves for something they think they've done wrong. Again, they may not have actually done anything wrong; they perceive that they have done so.

They may cut themselves, or overeat, or even starve themselves. They have the belief that they need to be punished for their wrong doing and even though any aggrieved parties may have moved on; they refuse to do so until they feel that they have been punished enough. Sadly, they may never feel like they have been punished enough.

If you find yourself feeling this type of anger, you should consult your doctor for support and advice.

 

The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk.

 

11. Verbal Anger

Anger that's expressed verbally, not physically. They say ‘sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.’ Sadly, that is one of the biggest lies ever told. While a verbal attack may not leave any physical scars, the emotional pain can be overwhelming.

People who experience verbal anger use insults and criticism to put people down and hurt them psychologically. The intent is to hurt and the choice of words is deliberately emotive and often evokes imagery.

Verbal anger is often used as a means of control where the angry person strips away the other person’s self-esteem and willpower. Once they have broken the person down, they can shape them to meet their needs.

 

 

12. Volatile Anger

When something is volatile, it's explosive.

Anger is the same way.

This type of anger can erupt out of nowhere and can be extremely violent.

It often comes and goes without any warning.  Can be hormonal/chemically induced. 

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