When times are tough and you are carrying the world on your back, a little tinkering could improve your self-image. Sometimes one brick feels like a load.
We have a mental picture of who we are and if that image is even slightly damaged we react defensively––perhaps irrationally. Suppose somebody questions the way we dress or our ability to do a good job. The criticism hurts and our self-perception is damaged and it angers us. Heaven forbid somebody makes false accusations about our character––it would trigger a meltdown.
Let’s be honest, we are not always productive; in fact there are times when we’re downright unproductive. The truth is, we can be many things. Keep that in mind, it will help you bolster your identity so it’s less fragile; your self-esteem won’t shatter if a tiny piece gets nicked. It won’t matter if someone thinks you aren’t doing a good job, even if you catch yourself doing a lousy job. Hey, we all make mistakes.
Think better of yourself; develop some pride you’ll tend to live better––in spite of yourself.
Better thinking takes discipline, but we aren’t always disciplined so have a positive thought available to call on when tough times arise. Find a persuasive quote; memorize it or put it in your phone. Write it on your bathroom mirror:
What You Think of Me is None of My Business.
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.
When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”
Wayne Dyer ~(May 10, 1940 ~August 29, 2015)