Sometimes patients who suffer from rejection seek counseling. We work on reviewing their lives and, in time, a new perspective appears. They had not actually been rejected. Upon reflection they realize that the event or circumstance in question could have and should have redirected them in a way that would enhance their lives and wellbeing.
Rejection is a downer. Witness the people who walk down the street staring at the pavement. Why? They could have been brushed off, ridiculed, pushed away. They carry a load of bricks on their shoulders. Chances are they’d say they don’t feel worthy. Baloney, quite the reverse: the person or situation that caused the reaction isn’t worthy of them.
Rejection is like medicine; it tastes bitter but in the end may help us discard artificial relationships and bogus opportunities that aren’t and never were in our best interest.
Rodney Dangerfield used to complain, “I don’t get no respect,” and we all laughed. But in real life rejection is not a laughing matter.
If someone doesn’t respect you, check your price tag. See if you’ve subconsciously marked yourself down. Get off the clearance rack. What you accept for your time and effort determines your worth. Respect yourself and others will, as well.
All too often past rejections dictate current attitudes. A wise person once noted, “That’s why the windshield is so large and the rearview mirror is so small.” The message is simple: quit looking back. You are better than what some intolerant person or shallow circumstance once accused you of.
Naysayers from the past bring nothing to the party intellectually or spiritually––unless you’re in the market for headaches and heartache.
Take a deep breath. Inner peace begins the moment you refuse to let other people or events control your emotions. Be wise enough to move forward, diligent enough to work hard and patient enough to wait for the things you deserve.